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Talking Children Through Tragedy

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From Boston bombings to the West, Texas plant explosion, this has been a week filled with tragedy.

As a Nation, we have grieved and looked for answers.

It's tough for any adult to process, but what about your children?

In uncertain times, our children look to us for answers we may not have, but it's up to us to set the tone.

"They're constantly thinking its terrorist attacks… are they going to come to our school are they going to do anything," said Bay County mother of 3, Patty Glover.

This week, Glover has tried her best to be open to her children and her two teenage brother and sister in laws.

"I try not to tell them that the stuff is going on but they're going to see that it's happening. So, when they do ask me the questions, I answer it in the best way I can," she said.

It's not an easy task to explain tragedy, but family counselor, Dr. Allen marks, said its important parents set the tone.

"The parent needs to show that they're in control. You're children are always looking to you for emotional clues," said Marks.

He suggested limiting the viewing of disturbing footage; instead focus on ways to help the victims and, when questions arise, always tell the truth.

"You don't want to tell your children a lie. Something bad has happened. You don't want to alter the facts. You don't want to embellish. Keep it simple, but at the same time, always go back to "this happened there, but here we're safe," said Marks.

For Glover, open dialogue, a positive attitude and a faith god is her families' solace through trying times.

"We don't always know the answers, we can't always keep it from happening, we just have to trust in Him," she said.

Dr. Marks also stressed the importance of children knowing who is out there the help them, from law enforcement to school resource officers.

He said the best therapist for your child is you, the parent.